a Home-cooked meal

Our very first home-cooked meal from Gerald and Adele, two nights ago at their very own home. It was a simple saffron risotto, baked 5 variety of veggies and a size-able beefsteak. Ah... we were pleased to be invited for a meal despite their very busy work week. We brought along a bottle of Margaret River - Leeuwen Art series and 4 wine glasses, which we left for their future use.

We are glad to see them starting out and learning to host a simple meal.

My thoughts turned to this beautiful passage on GOD's provision.

Psalm 36:8

"They feast on the abundance of your house;

You give them drink from your river of delights.

For with you is the fountain of life;

In your light we see light."

and this is my prayer for them....v.10

"Continue your love to those who know you, your righteousness to the upright in heart."

Dancing Ladies

This wonderful group of ladies has been line dancing for over a year and now they are off to Pulai Spring for a time of fellowship. There will be lots of fun, laughter and exercise from what I hear. Laughter is good medicine for the body, soul and spirit! May our good Lord bless them with overflowing joy in their lives and may this joyous exuberance be a blessing to their families and friends.
Last year they gave a performance at the Mid Autumn festival, which I sadly missed. I hope to get to see a video clip this time round.

It's really great to see such zest and vitality! Living life to the fullest and blessing many along the way with their cheer and Christ-like love.
Praise the Lord!

His and Her lunch

It was gratifying that we were able to enjoy a lovely lunch together at Gattopardo. We were introduced to this chic Italian restaurant by our friends SL and LM. Yesterday we had a "to do" at Orchard Road and decided to drop by Fort Canning for lunch. Gattopardo is located in a building that is undergoing renovation and access is rather messy with workmen around. As the car park was blocked, we parked right in the front without any objection.

No reservation yet we were promptly welcomed, probably not many patrons because on the on-going renovation.

We selected from their very well priced set lunch with an excellent variety. The starter came so lovely and well presented, a piece of art on a plate. It tasted even better than it looked! And the portions are just right for us. The mains and desserts were just as deliciously prepared and tasty, the steamed garoupa fillet had just the right bite and the meal ended with a tiny portion of orangey cream cake baked in a cup.

It is just so wonderful to be able to eat and enjoy food while we are able to because there were times I could not. So be thankful when all our body functions are working well! Smell, taste, touch, see, hear. "Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for it is now that God favors what you do." Ecclessiates 9:7

man on a horse

Along the Old Holland Road, can be found "man on a horse". It is really quite a charming, statuesque pose. Don't go look for him on the grassy plain of Blackmore. Ah.... he is a half-life size figurine, prominently displayed at the bay window of this house along the Old Holland Road. I never fail to look appreciatively at it every time we drive pass. It is a very beautiful piece of art! And to share it with passers-by, it is really the generosity of the owners.

Plain @ Blackmore

This morning we wanted to go to Kent Ridge for a walk. We made the turn to Old Holland Road to avoid the Clementi crawl. At this juntion the new Blackmore MRT will be constructed. Immediately, we changed our mind and decided to walk around this grassy plain with one side of it being the KTM rail. The rail may not be around for long when the Keppel station cease to operate come July 2011. Take every opportunity to visit these sights.

I can imagine when the MRT is completed in 2014 and the surroundings get redeveloped, it may become too modernized. I will be able to say that I had walked this grassy plain at the back of the Blackmore MRT before it became hard concrete. Somehow Singapore often wants to maximize the economic return on every square feet of land! How sad.

As we made the last turn, we spied a RC aircraft hobbyist preparing his plane to fly around this open field. On

the weekends, he says the place is crowded. Today he has this airspace all to himself what a grand privilege!
A dad with his 2 year old son cycled by, stopped to say that the little boy is happy to see the flying plane and the passing train. His two favourites- plane and train. It doesn't take much to make a child happy, the simple pleasure of the outdoor.

It's a beautiful day.

5.8km West Coast Park

Ah...woke up to another excellent night of sleep, praise the LORD! When one gets a good night sleep, one wakes up energetic and ready to start the day. (of course it could still be the positive "uppity" effect of Dexa, anyway enjoy it while it lasts). At 7 am, Paul and I decided to bike at West Coast Park, unlike the east, the coastline is very short and the cycle track is just circulatory round the Park with some greenery and a bit of the sea (not as pretty, with lots of large container vessels). But nevertheless it serves the purpose of providing good exercise for us - breezy and sunny - plenty of fresh air to open up the lungs as we pedaled and lots of Vitamin D from the shafts of sunlight through the trees that lined the park. Twice round the park and we managed to cover 5.8 km, not bad, enough to get good blood circulation and loosened up the joints!

But for a mountain-biker (Paul), cycling on these bicycle paths, is a piece of pastry.... he used to be spending 3 hours in the Bukit Timah Reserve, going up and down steep 30 degree incline! sometimes making his way to the zoo at Mandai, that's some distance. And he had his numerous tumbles, once quite bad that he needed me to drive and pick him up from the Dairy Farm exit, with bleeding on his shins and a dent to his helmet, which thankfully did its job to protect his head! All this has stopped, and for my sake, he is staying clear from any activities that are injurious!

So now, he cycles with me, around the safe and subdued bicycle tracks but in rather lovely parks with those humongous cannonball trees and its shed leaves on the ground . It makes a charming picture!

5.3km cycle

This morning I woke up to a great night of sleep. I am thankful. At 7 am , Paul was up and we decided to go exercise, we put our 2 bikes on the rack and headed off to East Coast Park. It was still cool and breezy by the time we arrived 8 am at the Fort Road entrance. As we were about to set off, we spotted President Nathan on his usual morning walk, we gave a quick wave and morning greeting, as he was just finishing off chatting with another couple. We find our President a warm and friendly person, always smiling and greeting citizens along his walking route.
We steadily rode all the way to the MacDonald junction, had a short rest by the beach and a drink of water, and made the return ride soon after, as we had a busy morning ahead. Half way back we saw our Mandarin congregation elder, Eugene and we stopped to have a chat with him and his wife. It is really lovely that often on the East Coast cycle and walking path, we meet many familiar faces. Before our destination, we saw the President again and this time he waved and paused to talk to us, he recognised Paul in his bright blue top. What a nice and kind gesture!
All in we cycled 5.3 km, that is rather good. Our last biking was along the Clementi canal, it was just a straight route which ended at a major cross road, no scenery and no pit stop for drinks or little "makan" unlike the East Coast. So it looks like we prefer heading to the beachside.

A Warrior

From the MM listserv, someone signs off at the end of her every reply in the forum and I like it.... 

"I am brave, I am strong, I will not quit... I am a warrior."
 
Yes, I echo the same sentiment and for me I'll add "because Jesus is in the boat with me in this MM storm (Matt 8:23-27); and He is A strength to the needy in his distress, A refuge from the storm, A shade from the heat;" (Isaiah25:4)  
 

Dexa Night

My first Dexa Night after almost 2 months! And of course one cannot be on Dexa without the infamous Dexa nights. I have read enough from MMers on what strange things we do on Dexa nights! 
I will be on Dexa (20mg) for Three times a week for Sept- Mon, Tues, Wed- so I know I will be "hyped" for a couple of days and then "down" for the next days... Yeah...the Dexa Roller Coaster!

I am writing this at 3am on my first Dexa night this season! For some strange reason I woke up thinking of a train ride from Singapore to Penang. And what does one do, eyes all wide open with a fully-functioning Iphone within reach?  I found this incredible blog - the Man on Seat61- a blogger's hobby on travel by train. Residing in UK, he has travelled on many rails. He has a most comprehensive guide on how to travel from Singapore to Penang, and if I want to, northward to Bangkok. (there is even a 4 week overland itinerary from London to Singapore! - not for me) 
Go to and check out this exciting blog
www. seat61.com

I seriously think Paul and I should try the Singapore-Penang route out of the historic, Moorish Keppel station, before it closes in July 2011.   
It is a 6 hr dayride to KL or 8 hr in a 2 berth deluxe aircon compartment. Stopover for a half day and then get on train to Butterworth for another 6 hr, cross by ferry and Stay the night at the historic E&O in Penang. 

I will tell Paul all about this in the morning!

gladdens the heart

Last night we celebrated my father's 80th birthday. Not every year do we get all family members at the celebration, with two siblings living overseas, most time it is a quiet affair. This year, Benno and Lilian, plus Denise and Cor came for the wedding, at the same Denise was interning with NUS nanotech for 2 months, and Cor joined her for a short summer hol.

The newest family member, Thaddaeus got to meet his grandaunt/uncle. Paul's side of the family is even smaller, he has only one brother, who has only one daughter. So the family gathering at his end is even quieter, although he does have numerous cousins. Thankfully, at the wedding we did catch up with some.

Back to the birthday, we had the dinner at Lao Beijing and the food was wonderfully good, especially the Peking duck and dishes were slightly different from the conventional Chinese restaurants which tend to offer Cantonese cuisine.

Father is now walking with a slight limp, his legs are weakening. But our tall and strong Russ offered his arm to grandpa when he needed to go the washroom; and our newest and latest addition to the family, Adele also helped to hold the hand of grandma and brought her to the wash. Melissa, despite her busyness with Thadd, was the one who organised the dinner and made calls to the restaurant and selected the menu! And Gerald, all grown-up and married, still showers them with hugs and kisses!

It gladdens our hearts to see our children (Adele included) stepping up to take responsibilities for such event and to care and show love for their grandparents!

tea ceremony

The Chinese customary tea ceremony must be separately held at both homes, first at the groom's and then at the bride's. All therespected elders - grandparents, grandaunts, granduncles and uncles and aunts from both sides of our families came promptly before the scheduled time at 3.30pm. My sister, Lilian, despite living in Netherlands for the past 28 years, and not familiar with the proceedings, did a marvelous job with the help of my sister-in-law, Emilyn, guided the newly-wed to serve sweet dates tea to the respective elders in the right order of hierarchy. First, t

he parents, that's Paul and I, then the grandparents, Paul's aunt and uncle before my family side of aunts and uncles, in order of seniority. And finally, the newly-wed themselves will be served tea by their younger siblings... Russell, gladly bowed on one knee and served tea to G and addressed A as sister-in-law and in return received an ang-pow from them! It was really a beautiful and thoughtful custom to honour and recognise the newly-wed's elders.

A's granny insisted that she must come home in a new outfit and it cannot be in her bridal gown. This change of attire signifies that she now returns to her maternal home as a married woman. A changed into a lovely red cheongsam (I'll have to get a photo of it, to post it here).

G&A wedding dinner

So much said of the church service which was held on the 7th, the wedding dinner at Fullerton was on the 8th. Thankfully, with the long weekend, the celebration could be spread over a couple of days, else it could be quite tiring. Both Alvin and Paul, the fathers, had ample time on stage to thank their guests and Paul additionally took the opportunity to gave the newly-wed some practical tips - the 5 "T"s to keep a marriage strong and healthy - Talk, Trust, Tolerate, Treasure and Track. What is "Track", the other Ts seem straightforward and easy to understand. Ah... track each other... I think Paul has to explain on this.

The evening was splendid and we were delighted with a huge turnout of 450 guests from both sides of the families. This time round, unlike for Melissa's we felt more able to invite more friends, ex-colleagues and Paul's business associates. Thankfully, I am able to make the rounds of photo-taking at almost 25 tables...without my mask...And by GOD's grace I am still ok. Am grateful to have almost 4 weeks of being drug-free.

G&A church service

It was a wedding over 3 days and it was a long weekend, Singapore 45th National Day. A good choice of a day for Gerald and Adele to make their vows and commitment to one another. The church service was held at Hope Presbyterian, home church of Adele's family. Bethesda Katong would not be able to cater to a crowd of 500+ guests! Adele's family has as many friends andfamily members as we have and thankfully, Hope Presb, was large enough for all to congregate and celebrate. The sanctuary was bright and spacious with the wooden pews well placed for all to have a good view of the ceremony. It was delightful to see little Thaddaeus, at 16 months, walking and holding the ring cushion down the aisle; closely followed by Ashley, at 7 years and almost a replicate of Adele when she was young. Gerald's four friends walked down the aisle with four of adeles's charming, young and pretty bridesmaids.

Paul gave the 10-minute sermon on the bible verse 1Corinthian13:7 (chosen by G&A). I hope they will remember what was said...well, if not, I had it videoed on my Iphone....such a useful gadget! I also captured the part when both G&A sang "When GOD made you" All these will make good memories at a later date.

The reception was as whimsical as described in the invitation card, and truly quite original! There were food stations with chefs doling out laksa, warm Sharwarma of pita bread with grilled chicken or lamb and shreds of veg, freshly-made crepes oozing with chocolate and/or slivers of banana, pizza thickly covered with cheese, and bags of popcorn (all the bags personally stamped!). For drinks, we had real glass bottles (the little ones) of Coca cola and Green Spot...wow...these are like non-existent for the last 15 years, glass bottles have been replaced by cans! I think the supplier got them down from Thailand? Remarkable! The efforts and thoughts that went into making it extra-ordinary. It was really an interesting spread and all the credits to A, who wanted it to be different from the usual wedding receptions. All done with the help of her coterie of faithful, hard-working friends!!! yes..I can only exclaimed with !!! marks.

exchange for a suckling pig

It was a joyous and auspicious occasion - the Chinese custom of gift exchange in a marriage. Our son Gerald is getting this weekend and last Saturday we planned a simple but fun-filled gift exchange. My three dear friends B, SK and LY whole-heartedly agreed to be part of this customary practice. And LY's better half, KY tagged along as photographer and driver.

tiongbahruroastedpork.com supplies the suckling pig and delivers it to the doorstep at great convenience to its customers. The photos show it all!

For us, we went through this little custom for goodwill, establishing family ties with new to-be in-laws and of course for the fun of it! And my three friends thoroughly enjoyed the experience. Now they are para-experts and SK is twice trained and have been "choped" to assist with future marriage gift exchanges! I realised that were a couple of "omissions", thankfully the bride's family do not demand strict adherence. They had a great time too. As a special treat to welcome my friends, they prepared popiah and kueh pie tee! (some were brought back for me....was delicious)

betrayal, anger, terror, revenge

Betrayal, anger, terror, revenge.... seems like from out of some Hollywood feature movie. No, it describes the lives of some myeloma survivors, I read from the ACOR's multiple myeloma forum. These are "real" people, some of whom have been living with myeloma for 10 to 19 years. For some, the myeloma journey is short, if they have the aggressive kind. For those with slow-growing, and now with many new targeted drugs, myeloma can be kept in control and one's "expiration date" gets extended.

Someone said that after his diagnosis, he had mentally prepared himself, his family and friends for an early termination, said his "good-byes", asked for forgiveness, written his will, ticked off his "bucket list", but his good doctors kept him alive longer than expected, he felt embarrassed after saying all the farewells that he is still around! True, many of us go through similar emotions and reactions.

One long timer mm survivor (19 years) had this to say, quoted below. I feel very encouraged after reading her post and realised that my 3 years is really nothing compared with the many people like her who have been courageously living with myeloma - gone through the many instances of CR (complete response) and relapses. This is the reality of myeloma. You wonder whether it is one's good fortune or misfortune, sometimes you want it all to end, better sooner than later. Sometimes, you feel quite good, your quality of life seems normal and you want to live on, as long as possible! and then when you get news of relapse, your world falls apart... yet again.

For some, the effects of myeloma mean a life with severe pain and organs dysfunction and for others, the distress caused by the drugs administered can be just as challenging.

I find BB has described well how best to live with it and not allow this dreadful illness take control. From these "experienced" survivors, I am learning to ride the waves.

She reminds me to be real, to face my fears, to allow room for my emotions, not to despair, not dwell in self pity but to get on and live well....IT IS POSSIBLE...

"Cancer changes our landscapes. We've been betrayed by our bodies and the world looks very different. Each remission is a joy, each relapse means redefining what I can do. After a while, I've learned to ride the waves. Some have been bigger than others, but I've learned that I am a survivor and that life will indeed go on....

Some folks feel that they have to be stoic no matter what, but to me, that robs us from being real. We ARE scared from time to time; we ARE angry that life has dumped misery at our doorsteps, and we ARE, at times, utterly terrified.

It's tough to remain "strong" through all that myeloma brings with it. I'm not a big fan on dumping our crap on everyone we see, and that despite our pain, we do need to get on with our lives. Living well is the best "revenge" we can take for myeloma....

Yes, we CAN and I hope folks will learn to live with myeloma and not worry too much about dying from it. That's the sadness....to let myeloma take over one's life. Especially now that myeloma is becoming a chronic illness for so many of us, our "expiration dates" keep moving longer and longer.

The message is to keep hangin' in there, be strong, and allow yourself periodic moments of weakness. We are, after all, human beings. If we are not kind and gentle to ourselves, we will forever feel "guilty" by not living up to our own standards of how we "should" behave.

The sun will come up every morning. For what it's worth, I learned a long time ago that usually, I have to get up and get on with the day. I truly don't know how else to live."

For me, I know that I can find strength from our compassionate GOD, our Ebenezer. He gives me my daily bread (of strength and endurance), my beloved family (especially my devoted husband, whose love and affection is exemplary) and my community of caring and kind-hearted church friends. How does GOD show His love? through all these whom He has surround me with. From the Bible we can find the needed comfort and peace to persevere. So therefore... "open for me the gates of righteousness, I will enter and give thanks to the LORD" ps.118:19

Far from the maddening crowd

Far from the maddening crowd and be back to nature, back to walks in the parks and gardens and less in the crowded places. The 5th cycle of Vidaza as well as 10mg of Revlimid daily for 21 days has caused wbc to drop to 2.4 (as expected). This time round I was quite tired and for a week I needed to rest and sleep more during the day. My tummy was affected too and it was important to be close to the lavatory. I should be better in a couple of days and wbc should go back up. (update: the test result today 20th Aug, wbc 3.06 and neutrophil 50% amounts to 1,530 which is up from 1,008 of last week. Good improvement. My normal could average at 2,400.)

Sembawang Park still retains old world charm, surrounded by several black and white houses and humongous aged trees with overhanging roots, canonball trees, stone benches and verdant green grass. We walked towards the beach and sat by the north shore. There were some youngsters fishing and in half an hour they caught some small fishes and tiny crabs. It was a lovely morning with a slight drizzle. Thank GOD for the simple beauty of nature around us, even in a busy and bustling city like Singapore

passing on

Last week my 85 year father-in-law passed on after 5 days in ICU. He had collapsed, possibly due to a heart event. The paramedics found him without pulse and bp but when he was brought to the A&E, the doctors managed to resuscitate him. However he did not regain consciousness during the 5 days, his brain was damaged due to the lack of oxygen for the 40 minutes it took to bring him to the hospital.

We were very grateful for the many friends and relatives who came to pay their respect. Someone said you know who are your friends, they show up at your funeral. And we are touched by the many friends whom we have not seen for some years, they came to comfort our grief and spoke words of encouragement to us.

At the crematorium both Paul and his brother (there are only two of them in the family) shared memories of their father.

Paul spoke of two things he remembered. He was a man of few words, like most Asian fathers, he was not demonstrative in his affection. He was a man of actions. He showed his love as a good provider. He was a hardworking man. He gave his utmost in doing and completing his work well. Brother-in-law Moon, said that his father was very disciplined especially after being cured of cancer of the bladder at 37, with eating healthy and exercising regularly. Being a simple and frugal man, he set up his own exercise regimen with a punching bag in his backyard. He avoided the salty Cantonese diet.

Later on, Uncle Kai Poh reminded Paul, that his father was also a courageous man, who stood up for what he believed and would not hesitate to speak up (i.e. to his boss) for what is right.

Physically he was strongly built and he kept himself mentally healthy by reading the weekly Times magazine. Frequently he would remind Paul to bring the old issues (he saw no reason why he should subscribe when he could get it from us, some weeks later).

He love to cycle to the shops or the market, though we warned him of the dangers cyclists face along the roads and even more so when you are old. It was only just a year ago that he was strongly persuaded to give up his 2500cc motorbike.

As we reminisced of this man, he had many praiseworthy qualities and we will miss him. We each have our journey on earth, one life to live, what memories would we leave, what impact to lives of people we meet along the way.

3 days camp 3 days hospital

Finally I am back to telling you what has been happening the last couple of weeks.

Paul and I (and Russ) went to Malacca for the BKC camp. It was a refreshing time of learning from the book of Habakkuk, the camp teacher was LTJ from Ravi Z ministry. It was a very lovely time of fellowship and studying from the bible.

My 3 nights at the camp was matched with 3 nights at the hospital!

I had a bad cough with a fever. Dr. G wanted to keep the infection under control. With the intravenous antibiotic, the fever subsided quite rapidly and I did get better quite fast. He took the opportunity to improve my immunity with IVIG and also did a bone marrow aspirate.

I have spent the last week resting and recovering, still a little cough now and then.

My vulnerability to infection is due to the low wbc caused by dexa, and my on-going oral treatment requires me to still be on dexa and Dr G wants to increase it to control the m-spike. We are still not sure what to do. Please pray from guidance from the LORD.

isaiah one

The book of Isaiah was written thousands of years ago, so how relevant is it to our present day Christians. How to bring its spiritual truths to make sense to our new generation of church-goers. We read recently of mega churches bringing the message in almost hip-hop style to attract people to the Christian faith. Where do we draw the line? Christianity is presented in a concert-like set-up with all the accompanying top-of-the-line musical gadgets and sound system. Fashion shows and beauty contests are par for course, the accepted norms. Is church becoming a community center with all its activities to gather people for a "good time". I hope not. Will reading the book of Isaiah make sense to this present generation? Our bible study group has just started this 22-week sojourn. I was so encouraged by the lessons from Jeremiah and I know this huge tome of writings by prophet Isaiah will no doubt be challenging and I am looking forward to it.

Our first lesson centered on GOD's lament over the Israelites' phoney worship, their fake religiosity. Their acts of piety and offers of sacrifices were just rituals and customs to placate a GOD whom they thought did not see their unethical, immoral and acts of injustice. Sin had grown to epidemic proportion.

This same message from Isaiah rings true today. GOD is not on the radar screen of most Sunday-Christians. From Monday, they are back to brow-beating their employees, squeezing the last penny from their suppliers, cursing and back-stabbing their colleagues .... GOD is being switched off in the day-to-day living and dealings.

"your whole head is injured, your whole heart afflicted , from the sole of your feet to the top of your head there is no soundness."

GOD will not stand for this detestable behavior, their righteousness has become dross and diluted..."like oak with fading leaves, like a garden without water, the mighty man will become tinder and his work a spark; both will burn together and no one to quench the fire." What a condemnation!

Yet, our GOD Almighty, extends a hand of reconciliation for the repentant, "Come now, let us reason together, though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they red as crimson, they shall be as white as wool, if you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best of the land." GOD offers purification, not destruction! The rescue that GOD brings about does not violate His nature - He will provide the sacrificial Lamb to redeem mankind.

busy, busy, busy

Whatssup? Yep, I have been quiet for quite some weeks, so, whatssup? We are in the process of re-making the kitchen. Our kitchen almost 11 years old has crashed out on us, some doors and drawers were coming apart. We just have to take the bold step to do a MAKE-OVER. With some help, we have decided to re-organise and some walls will come down.

Sometimes we want to wait to find the right time to do something major like this but really there is no perfect time, you just have to organise your life around it. So we are glad to go ahead, reminding ourselves to be calm with every move and not be too stressed. So far, so good. It's 2 weeks now and Paul has been back home every now and then to check the progress. (We are out of the house for 1 month - to stay away from the noise and dust).

lotusinpond

Finally the lotus in our fish pond bloomed! For a long time we only had green leaves but 2 days ago it started to bud and now we have this lovely lotus flower. When it comes after a long break, such natural beauty can bring great delight to the beholders. Indeed when we wait patiently our Creator rewards our patience. Of course, we could have added flowering fertiliser to speed up the process, but no need, in its right time it will surely bloom. We see this enchanting lotus when we walk down the stairs and look out of the window into the garden; this quiet and delicate beauty is just so uplifting - we give thanks and praise to our LORD - He is the Creator.

Last week, on a few days, I was feeling a little down, I must admit I felt "useless" it did not trouble me too much or too long, in fact I could even have a sound and restful sleep. (I have the tendency to compare myself to others, the well and the sick - even some sick people can be so useful, the trouble with me is I want to be a doer) But our LORD in His grace, helped me to overcome this little downtime. The next morning, I woke up energised and I managed to clear my wardrobe of clothes that I can no longer wear. My clothing size has increased (sadly). It was quite a sort-out without any help. Boxes containing my old working clothes were brought out and cleared. All these are going to Salvation Army. At the end of the day, I was very happy and satisfied with my "usefulness". Our gracious LORD enabled me and gave me the energy to do this little work. "I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me"

This week, He brought cheer to us with this beautiful lotus in the pond.

a little inspiration for the day

Some inspiring words for the day.....

"Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply and Speak kindly.'

"Happiness keeps you sweet, Trials keeps you strong."

"Sorrows keeps you human, Failures keep you humble."

"Success keeps you growing, but GOD keeps you going."

Comforting words

This song was sent to me June 2008 by a young man whom I have not even met, to this day. It was through Adele that I received it. I found out later that he is son of an ex-BKC friend, God works in wonderful way. He has written this for his friend and also sent it to me when he learned of my illness. Now and then as I write my blog I would listen carefully to the words. It is really very heartfelt. I have pulled out the lyrics here to meditate and to reflect. It lifts me up and I am sure you will be encouraged by it too.
We all have difficult experiences of varying degrees and sometimes, yours unlike mine (which I cannot hide) you may keep yours in silence and your pain is just as great, may the words of this song lift you into the fold of our heavenly Father loving arms. He promised "I will never leave you nor forsake you".

Yesterday we were reminded of the heartbrokenness of dear A whose wife SC went home to be with the LORD. Such sadness and sorrow we can never fathom until we suffer the same loss. May our LORD comfort him wholly.

Carry You

When it feels like you’re walking alone
And the sand on your feet burns
When it’s hard to believe how far you must go
When it’s hard to believe you’re not the only one

When your life’s dry, unstable and broken
And the beat of your weathered heart slows
And it’s tough to know it hurts to be alive
And it pains to know we cry just for you

So remember to rely on He whose footprints are bigger than yours ownself
The burden on your back will never leave you
He will carry you

When you’re thirsty and your soul is hungry
The oasis is out of sight
When it’s hard to see pass the glare in front of you
When you’ve given your all but your all just ain’t enough

So remember to rely on He whose footprints are bigger than yours ownself
The burden on your back will never leave you
He will carry you

So remember to rely on He whose footprints are bigger than yours ownself
The burden on your back will never leave you
He will carry you

Cross the sand
Cross the sand
Cross the sand
Cross the sand to where You are

So remember to rely on He whose footprints are bigger than yours ownself
The burden on your back will never leave you
He will carry you

If he carried the weight of the world upon His shoulders
I know my brother that He will carry you
If he carried the weight of the world upon His shoulders
I know my sister that He will carry you

all's well

All's well with me. Sleeping well and eating well. Good energy for most part of the day. on dexa off-day, I do feel fatigued and achy but once back on dexa, the next day - thursday, which is TODAY, I am all charged up. So maybe that's why I have the impetus to blog on thursday.... Ah, any meeting up with friends is best done post-dexa. Any mental stimulation, reading, writing... works well post-dexa.I actually woke up this morning and thanked GOD for dexa. SO can you imagine what occurs post-dexa days, I am not so thankful, I have to confess.

Paul has been traveling since 1 April, about a week now. But it's not a problem for me. Not at all, I have been very well cared for.On Good Friday, friends were waiting at church entrance to welcome me to sit with them for the service. The choir performed superbly! It was a very worshipful rendition of The Servant King. They deserved a standing ovation, but this is church so that cannot be done. And behind me was sitting an ex-choir member who sang along on the Hallelujah segment, what a beautiful voice she has. At the end of service I turned around to check out who she is... what a lovely surprise.. a member from my care group.

On Sunday, I was again well taken cared of and was brought out to lunch with several friends to a charming, youngish cafe at Serangoon Gardens. This group of young adults in their late twenty has done up the place nicely, the walls of the stairway was studded with lego...so original! Most importantly, the food was good, the specially grilled tenderloin was the most tender I have tried, really super. I tasted a small piece from C. I had ordered pork stew with lots of peas, very healthy and tasty!

Monday was spent with 3 friends to learn a new mentally challenging game involving tiles. I have a long way to go to understand all the strategies. It's better than Soduku, in my opinion, is lonely and individual exercise. I like to be with people. Not too many, a few will do.

Bible study on Tuesday, I drove there myself and with my mask on. Cough and sniffles are plenty around.

On Wednesday, I finally caught up Ir, also a mm patient. We had to postponed earlier cos she came down with a cold. When we are down, we have to stay home to recover. It was a good time to talk about our experiences and to encourage each other on. She looks very well since 2008 when I first saw her after her auto stem cell transplant, the post transplant took a long time for her to get out of, but now she is looking radiant!

Well, the days have been fruitful and well occupied. Today, Paul will be back in the afternoon. He will be surprised with my "active" week! I must show him that I can cope and manage on my own... of course with my devoted friends rallying around me.

THANK GOD for this loving community of believers!

a little setback

I have recovered from the episodes of cough and cold - was almost 4 weeks since CNY. For that time I had to keep off the mm medication especially dexa, since it affects the body's ability to mount immunity for infections. As a result of this period without med, the m-band went up from 7.5 to 11.5. Of course this is not encouraging but actually quite frustrating. I have to get back either on an intensive treatment or a less intensive one. Since for the last time, the response was already very good with a less intensive regiment, we have opted to go with the less intensive and monitor it for one month and change if we need to.

However for the coming 2 months or so, I have decided to take precautions and decided to wear a mask when I go outside of home. (otherwise Paul will forbid me from going out, what is the point of taking the meds if each time, infections cause disruptions to the treatment process - I agree). The doc is not recommending that I should alter my lifestyle, I am not that sick! But we certainly know that DEXA has its downsides!

Regimen will be 3x thalidomide and 1x dexa per week and zometa infusion.

I do require your prayers and understanding (if you see me I will be masked, people generally are "afraid" of masked faces - I am not sickly, just that I cannot afford to pick up any infection, else the treatment process will be long drawn). Do not avoid me. I can go out and do normal activities

My dexa day is Wednesday which means that I will be extra "hyped up" on Thursday..Friday - meaning I will be very cheerful, talkative, happy (quite unlike the real me! but it is really good to be uppity for a few days of the week) When I visited the eye doc on one Wednesday, she was so pleased to talk to such a "friendly" me - meaning that all other times, I don't have a too cheerful disposition...sorry! I should be thankful for this positive but short-term aspect of dexa effect on me!

Ah...but what goes up must come down...yes I will have dexa "down" days too. I hope you will not avoid me on these days, I can be very quiet and uncommunicative... and I blame it on the dexa. Really, it is quite beyond my control, I say dexa is neurotoxic. But knowing this is dexa effects, I shall try very hard to overcome, only by GOD's grace and enabling.

Oh yes, I must be very thankful that I have now found out how to overcome the insomnia caused by dexa, I take it after dinner, and I sleep through the whole night...no more sleepless nights!

I found out about this from the website ACOR - Association of Cancer Online Resources - it has been very helpful to receive advice from other mm patients. I find that there are so many people with this condition and how they are coping with it and the various treatment options. Some of them have to live with this for so many years... the long and tiring journey. Some have much more severe problems and they are living with it with such courage. I am very encouraged by their testimonies and willingness to help others by sharing how they handle and cope with the side effects of meds, what to look out for in a transplant etc.

1Thessalonians5:16-18 "Be joyful always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances, for this is GOD's will for you in Christ Jesus."

trustees of the faith

We are "trustees of the faith" hlc coined this phrase to express what apostle Paul instructed Timothy when he said, "O Timothy! Guard what was committed to your trust..." 1Tim6:20

Wow, I have not heard our responsibilities being put this way.

A trustee has the duty to defend what he has been entrusted with. He has a duty of loyalty to the institutor of the trust. He has a duty to administer the trust in the best interest of the beneficiaries.

These are some of the responsibilities of a trustee. He has to protect and guard the trust and follow strictly the instructions given by the institutor of the trust. He cannot choose to deviate from the specific requirements of the trust and must exercise due diligence and care in discharging his duties.

Apostle Paul has commanded Timothy to be a "trustee of the faith", to guard what was committed to his trust. As Christians, we are entrusted with the faith that was freely given but not without responsibilities. We are to defend the faith. How many of us see it as a trust? GOD has chosen to trust us with this wonderful gift of salvation. He has found us worthy to protect and guard it. We have been chosen to be loyal to it and to proclaim it with all honesty. We are to strictly look to the Institutor of this trust so that we exercise care and diligence in discharging our responsibilities. It is an awesome responsibility and a privilege to be appointed a trustee.

Let's take time to contemplate this task.

lunch ladies

I am posting on some past events which are worthy of being posted - because these are reminders of happy times. Happy times must be shared and remembered!

Three weeks ago (that was the one week I was well between the two bouts of flu), met with 4 friends whom I have not seen for a year or so. I really needed to assure them that I am alive and kicking and all by GOD's grace and favour.

I had lunch with SH, J, T and I. SH,J and I were my walking friends, we walked at the Botanics. T was my tennis partner (she has since hung up her racket).

It was marvellous to be able to update everyone about ourselves, quite a lot has changed for each one of us with our families. We were able to share openly of our "challenges". T was very helpful in talking about how to relate with grown-up children - very wise words.

I scrolled through the travel photos (on the Iphone) of T and her family. The son has grown so tall (in NS), the last I saw him was when he was in primary school - he was a little fella. The daughter grown so lovely.

I just so thankful to the LORD for all my friends and how they are part of my life in different ways.

CBD 2nd

Two weeks ago, we celebrated with the team at CBD at Gleneagles, their 2nd anniversary. I was one of the early patients and we are glad to be around for the celebration! We met many other patients - mds, mm etc. We took a photo with Dr. T and another patient A and husband W. W has been working hard on preparing the materials to start a MDS support group.

A and I look well under the watchful care of our doctor!

Missing here are the nurses, I must remember to get one with them at our next visit.

coughing again

It's really frustrating that I came down with another bout of cough so soon after the last one in Feb. I really have been very careful and it could be that while going for dental works and having to open my mouth WIDE...some germs could have got back in! I am sure I will laugh about it when I get better. I always feel awful to have to report to Dr T that I am sick. He has to assess when I need to start on antibiotic or when I have to hold back on the mm medications...like dexa... I think dexa makes me prone to infections. I looked back at my past records and most time after being on dexa for a few weeks I got some kind of infection. Dexa works well for me in bringing down the mm but it has various negatives - infections, insomnia (but I overcame that), mood swings etc, these are minor compared with the serious "internal" problems which come with long term use. But Dr. T always scale down the dose at the right time.

Today I am much better. I shall be really carefully not to pick up any more germs.

PS. Paul caught my flu and was coughing and sneezing for a week. I think he is also better today.

worthy pursuits

Today there were so many precious lessons from the bible study with hlc. I shall share some. Our study was from 1Tim6. One of lessons teaches us to "flee" and "pursue" - the Christian life is active and not passive - it is not static, apathetic nor inert. The Christian fights battles on many fronts - apostle Paul warns Timothy of the many temptations and dangers that are destructive and injurious, if we are not aware of and alert to them - the lure and enticement of materialism - the desire to want more and more. Flee from such desires. Counter to that, we should focus on and actively seek after "worthy pursuits"

1 pursue righteousness - is having a right attitude towards GOD and man

2 seek after godliness - is a persistent awareness of the presence of GOD, in nature, in circumstances

3 desire faith - is to remain loyal to GOD through all the ups and downs of life, wholly trusting in Him

4 covet love - is responding to affection from GOD

5 possess endurance - is to bear with difficulties, victoriously and cheerfully

6 put on gentleness - is not being docile but not be easily offended and angered

Such are worthy pursuits for the Christian.

Finally one last sharing from a deep-thinking Christian as she expressed her thoughts on what is contentment - how to arrive at a state of contentment. It is not spouting deprivation, deprivation is not contentment, absence of things is not contentment. Rather, contentment requires one to be godly, pursuing godliness and focus on the presence of GOD in everything, for without godliness it is difficult to find contentment. It is a "twinning" concept, there cannot be one without the other. Thus apostle Paul says "now godliness with contentment is great gain".

Indeed, godliness is the persistent awareness of the presence of GOD, as we increase and develop this mindset, and be more and more conscious of GOD and His workings, we will learn to strive less for our selves and grow to be more content with what we want for ourselves. To learn contentment, it has to start with the pursuit of godliness.

dental works

I will be going in for some dental work on an existing crown which has been chipping off over the last year. The doctor has kept off the repair as it was rather minor but now large parts are gone. I thought it best to do the repair while I am ok. The risk for mm patients doing dentals, is onj (necrosis of the jaw) - this is because many of us are on zometa, a bone strengthening drug. After discussing with Dr. T, we decided to schedule the dental work in-between the zometa infusions - my last was in Jan 11 and the next on 8 Mar. There will be 2 visits to the dental clinic (it was shifted 1 week later because I was down with flu). The first visit on thursday 25th Feb at 5pm will take 1.45hr - to remove existing crown, making a mould and fit a temporary cover over the tooth - I will also take 2g of amoxillin an hour before the procedure to prevent infection. A week later on 5th Mar, the installation of crown. The dental surgeon assures me that this is a simple and uncomplicated procedure with little discomfort and injury. Nonetheless I seek your prayers for this simple work.

- the doctor will be able to access and remove the existing crown with little injury to the gums

- normal healing to the site (I am not sure if the weekly dose of 20mg dex may slow it, some mm patients on dex, experience slow healing to wounds on their skin)

- the amoxillin to kept at bay any possible infection

Thanks, our trust in the LORD to watch over us in all big and small things in our lives.

a bleary CNY

It has been a bleary CNY - I caught the flu bug just at the eve of the lunar New Year and I have been spending the entire week at home. I must say that with prompt medical care, I am on the road to recovery. The scratchy throat and cough disappeared after 3 days and the fever also lasted 3 to 4 days, now I am left with a stuffy, congested nose. Not pleasant. And of course missed all the CNY festivities - Paul said it is good - too much visiting would be too tiring - too much cookies would be bad for health.

On a positive note, the MM marker came down (14.5 to 7.5) - that a piece of good new I wanted to share. It came down after just 3 weeks of dex and thal - that is quite remarkable, even Dr T was very surprised and pleased and thankful. With the flu, I skipped med for this week and hope to continue with the weekly dose next wed. Dex gives me the 'high' and 'low' - hyper, wakefulness - muscle aches/cramps. Will bear with it since it brings the marker down and until it gets to a stable level again.

We give thanks to the LORD. I thank you too, my friends, for your intercession.

don't waste your cancer - JP and DP

I was directed by a friend to this webarticle by John Piper and the added reflections of David Powlison. JP gave 10 reasons why Christians should not waste their experience with cancer. It is truly quite amazing to look at this dreaded disease in such a bold and courageous manner. Ultimately it speaks of a remarkably strong faith that fully trust in a Sovereign GOD who is loving and good. I recap on some of the points made. For the full commentary go to http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/TasteAndSee/ByDate/2006/1776_Dont_Waste_Your_Cancer/

(This website allows for sharing of this material in its full context)

1. You will waste your cancer if you do not believe it is designed for you by God.

It will not do to say that God only uses our cancer but does not design it. What God permits, he permits for a reason. And that reason is his design. If God foresees molecular developments becoming cancer, he can stop it or not. If he does not, he has a purpose. Since he is infinitely wise, it is right to call this purpose a design. Satan is real and causes many pleasures and pains. But he is not ultimate. So when he strikes Job with boils (Job 2:7), Job attributes it ultimately to God (2:10) and the inspired writer agrees: “They . . . comforted him for all the evil that the Lord had brought upon him” (Job 42:11). If you don’t believe your cancer is designed for you by God, you will waste it.

DP: Recognizing his designing hand does not make you stoic or dishonest or artificially buoyant. Instead, the reality of God’s design elicits and channels your honest outcry to your one true Savior. God’s design invites honest speech, rather than silencing us into resignation. Consider the honesty of the Psalms, of King Hezekiah (Isaiah 38), of Habakkuk 3. These people are bluntly, believingly honest because they know that God is God and set their hopes in him. Psalm 28 teaches you passionate, direct prayer to God. He must hear you. He will hear you. He will continue to work in you and your situation. This outcry comes from your sense of need for help (28:1-2). Then name your particular troubles to God (28:3-5). You are free to personalize with your own particulars. Often in life’s ‘various trials’ (James 1:2), what you face does not exactly map on to the particulars that David or Jesus faced - but the dynamic of faith is the same. Having cast your cares on him who cares for you, then voice your joy (28:6-7): the God-given peace that is beyond understanding. Finally, because faith always works out into love, your personal need and joy will branch out into loving concern for others (28:8-9). Illness can sharpen your awareness of how thoroughly God has already and always been at work in every detail of your life.

I find DP's reflections added further depth to JP's - yes, we cannot be "artificially buoyant" and dishonestly pretend that it does not hurt and cause fear, or that we welcome suffering and pain with open arms. But like Hezekiah, we can cry out to our LORD to help and rescue - "O LORD, I am oppressed; Undertake for me!" - that is a honest cry - wow, what a stunning expression - Undertake for me- Telling GOD, I am helpless, there is nothing I can do but You, Sovereign LORD can do everything. The LORD will undertake to walk alongside us through the entire journey. The end is not the highlight but the journey and the deepening of faith is what matters - being able to voice the joy and experiencing GOD-given peace, truly is experiencing GOD in a very special way.

3. You will waste your cancer if you seek comfort from your odds rather than from God.

The design of God in your cancer is not to train you in the rationalistic, human calculation of odds. The world gets comfort from their odds. Not Christians. Some count their chariots (percentages of survival) and some count their horses (side effects of treatment), but we trust in the name of the Lord our God (Psalm 20:7). God’s design is clear from 2 Corinthians 1:9, “We felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.” The aim of God in your cancer (among a thousand other good things) is to knock props out from under our hearts so that we rely utterly on him.

DP: God himself is your comfort. He gives himself. The hymn “Be Still My Soul” (by Katerina von Schlegel) reckons the odds the right way: we are 100% certain to suffer, and Christ is 100% certain to meet us, to come for us, comfort us, and restore love’s purest joys. The hymn “How Firm a Foundation” reckons the odds the same way: you are 100% certain to pass through grave distresses, and your Savior is 100% certain to “be with you, your troubles to bless, and sanctify to you your deepest distress.” With God, you aren’t playing percentages, but living within certainties.

Talking about odds - it is true that doctors will give their best professional judgement of the various treatments they may propose for you and the possible side effects, the risks and mortality - it will always be some big and small number, whether 50-50% or 70-30% or 99.9-0.1%. You would think it is better to be in the 99.9-0.1% scenario. But no doctor can promise that you will not be that 0.1%. It is comforting when the odds are favourable but we will feel let-down when we are on the wrong side. With GOD we will not be betting on odds but 100% promise of present comfort and future eternal life.

5. You will waste your cancer if you think that “beating” cancer means staying alive rather than cherishing Christ.

Satan’s and God’s designs in your cancer are not the same. Satan designs to destroy your love for Christ. God designs to deepen your love for Christ. Cancer does not win if you die. It wins if you fail to cherish Christ. God’s design is to wean you off the breast of the world and feast you on the sufficiency of Christ. It is meant to help you say and feel, “I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord.” And to know that therefore, “To live is Christ, and to die is gain” (Philippians 3:8; 1:21).

DP: Cherishing Christ expresses the two core activities of faith: dire need and utter joy. Many psalms cry out in a ‘minor key’: we cherish our Savior by needing him to save us from real troubles, real sins, real sufferings, real anguish. Many psalms sing out in a ‘major key’: we cherish our Savior by delighting in him, loving him, thanking him for all his benefits to us, rejoicing that his salvation is the weightiest thing in the world and that he gets last say. And many psalms start out in one key and end up in the other. Cherishing Christ is not monochromatic; you live the whole spectrum of human experience with him. To ‘beat’ cancer is to live knowing how your Father has compassion on his beloved child, because he knows your frame, that you are but dust. Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, and the life. To live is to know him, whom to know is to love.

I like this part that cherishing Christ is not "monochromatic" - from a 'minor key' we can and should progress towards a 'major key' - living out the full spectrum of human experience - a delightful exuberance when we experience real troubles and real joy! Cancer wins when we fail to cherish Christ and deepen our love for Him.

7. You will waste your cancer if you let it drive you into solitude instead of deepen your relationships with manifest affection.

When Epaphroditus brought the gifts to Paul sent by the Philippian church he became ill and almost died. Paul tells the Philippians, “He has been longing for you all and has been distressed because you heard that he was ill” (Philippians 2:26-27). What an amazing response! It does not say they were distressed that he was ill, but that he was distressed because they heard he was ill. That is the kind of heart God is aiming to create with cancer: a deeply affectionate, caring heart for people. Don’t waste your cancer by retreating into yourself.

DP: Our culture is terrified of facing death. It is obsessed with medicine. It idolizes youth, health and energy. It tries to hide any signs of weakness or imperfection. You will bring huge blessing to others by living openly, believingly and lovingly within your weaknesses. Paradoxically, moving out into relationships when you are hurting and weak will actually strengthen others. ‘One anothering’ is a two-way street of generous giving and grateful receiving. Your need gives others an opportunity to love. And since love is always God’s highest purpose in you, too, you will learn his finest and most joyous lessons as you find small ways to express concern for others even when you are most weak. A great, life-threatening weakness can prove amazingly freeing. Nothing is left for you to do except to be loved by God and others, and to love God and others.

Yep. I have experienced “one anothering” in a big way! There was a lot of generous giving on the part of many and definitely grateful receiving on my end. Even to this day, I am still receiving (not kidding, yesterday, pots of chicken buah keluak and radish cakes) – we have been blessed and loved, many times over and over again! Paul and I are cherished in this loving community of believers. It is not just loved by GOD alone, it is definitely GOD and others!

8. You will waste your cancer if you grieve as those who have no hope.

Paul used this phrase in relation to those whose loved ones had died: “We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope” (1 Thessalonians 4:13). There is a grief at death. Even for the believer who dies, there is temporary loss—loss of body, and loss of loved ones here, and loss of earthly ministry. But the grief is different—it is permeated with hope. “We would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord” (2 Corinthians 5:8). Don’t waste your cancer grieving as those who don’t have this hope.

DP: Show the world this different way of grieving. Paul said that he would have had “grief upon grief” if his friend Epaphroditus had died. He had been grieving, feeling the painful weight of his friend’s illness. He would have doubly grieved if his friend had died. But this loving, honest, God-oriented grief coexisted with “rejoice always” and “the peace of God that passes understanding” and “showing a genuine concern for your welfare.” How on earth can heartache coexist with love, joy, peace, and an indestructible sense of life purpose? In the inner logic of faith, this makes perfect sense. In fact, because you have hope, you may feel the sufferings of this life more keenly: grief upon grief. In contrast, the grieving that has no hope often chooses denial or escape or busyness because it can’t face reality without becoming distraught. In Christ, you know what’s at stake, and so you keenly feel the wrong of this fallen world. You don’t take pain and death for granted. You love what is good, and hate what is evil. After all, you follow in the image of “a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief.” But this Jesus chose his cross willingly “for the joy set before him.” He lived and died in hopes that all come true. His pain was not muted by denial or medication, nor was it tainted with despair, fear, or thrashing about for any straw of hope that might change his circumstances. Jesus’ final promises overflow with the gladness of solid hope amid sorrows: “My joy will be in you, and your joy will be made full. Your grief will be turned to joy. No one will take your joy away from you. Ask, and you will receive, so that your joy will be made full. These things I speak in the world, so that they may have my joy made full in themselves” (selection from John 15-17).

Grief is no fun and a heavy burden to carry. Can one turn it into a GOD-oriented grief that co-exists with joy and peace, where there is hope and meaning and purpose. Surely the CHRISTian must – for that is the reason why we bear the name of CHRIST.

DP:You come to terms with life and death on his terms. He will gentle you, purify you, cleanse you of vanities. He will make you need him and love him. He rearranges your priorities, so first things come first more often. He will walk with you. Of course you’ll fail at times, perhaps seized by irritability or brooding, escapism or fears. But he will always pick you up when you stumble. Your inner enemy - a moral cancer 10,000 times more deadly than your physical cancer.

This final parting shot from DP is just outstanding. What is more life threatening than the dreaded cancer, are besetting sins - pride, greed, lust, hatred, unforgiveness, impatience, laziness, procrastination – all these are worst than cancer. But GOD is all gentleness when it comes to dealing with His children who are in need of His compassion and comfort – He will gentle you, purify you and cleanse you of vanities.

place of tension

This morning, Paul was carrying this book and I took a quick glimpse into the content. It is a collection of Martyn-Lloyd Jones' sermons. In one of the chapters, MLJ gave his views on how he sees GOD answers prayer. He takes us away from the petition and the answer; but directs our thoughts on the process, the journey and the Almighty.

This is what MLJ says:

He tests our faith.

He proves us.

He leaves us in the place of tension to discover whether we are really trusting Him.

He does not deliver us at once.

He leaves it until the last moment in order that our faith may be tried.

The wind is allowed to blow in order that the oak may become mighty and strong.

Are you beset round about by difficulties?

Do you feel you are in an impossible situation?

Are you downcast and disconsolate?

Believe,

Trust,

In His good time,

He will answer.

He will act.

Pray on.

Hold on and you will not be disappointed.

Psalm 22:5 "They cried to you and were saved; in you they trusted and were not disappointed."

tuesday, wednesday...

I am again thankful that I could drive myself on tuesday for bible study and wednesday for my physiotherapy. On both days, Paul had meetings and was not able to drive me. Actually I am happy to have some "independence" and not have Paul send me everywhere. I think this way I will gain my confidence and can start to resume more normal activities. I have to persuade Paul to believe that I can do it. Really I don't want to be treated like an "invalid"!

Many, many MM patients lead a reasonably normal life even though they frequently have various oral and intravenous treatments. I believe I can be normal again.... and that happens when I can be less dependent. So when you see Paul, please persuade him to loosen his reins on me... please help.

Tomorrow (friday) I am going to physio again, I shall drive myself, unless if we decide to have lunch out together after that.